解:?$(1)$?∵?$GF//BC$?
∴?$\frac {DF}{FC}=\frac {DG}{BG}$?
∵?$\frac {DF}{FC}=\frac {3}{2}$?
∴?$\frac {DG}{BG}=\frac {3}{2}$?
∴?$\frac {BG}{BD}=\frac {2}{5}$?
∵?$BD=20$?
∴?$BG=8$?
?$(2)$?∵四邊形?$ABCD$?是平行四邊形
∴?$AB//CD,$??$AB=CD$?
∴?$\frac {DM}{AB}=\frac {DG}{GB}$?
∴?$\frac {DM}{AB}=\frac {3}{2}$?
∴?$ \frac {DM}{CD}=\frac {3}{2}$?
∴?$\frac {CM}{CD} =\frac {1}{2}$?